The consequence is directly linked to the behavior. For example, you tell your child that if he doesn't pick up his toys, then those toys will be removed for a week. Taking away privileges : Sometimes there isn't a logical or natural consequence for a bad behavior -- or you don't have time to think it through. In this case, the consequence for unacceptable behavior may be taking away a privilege. For example, if a middle schooler doesn't complete her homework on time, you may choose to take away television privileges for the evening.
This discipline technique works best if the privilege is:. Time outs : Time outs work if you know exactly what the child did wrong or if you need a break from the child's behavior. Be sure you have a time-out location established ahead of time. It should be a quiet, boring place -- probably not the bedroom where the child can play or a dangerous place like a bathroom.
This discipline technique can work with children when the child is old enough to understand the purpose of a time out -- usually around age 2 and older, with about a minute of time out for each year of age. Time outs often work best with younger kids for whom the separation from the parent is truly seen as a deprivation.
Corporal physical punishment, such as spanking, isn't recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics or mental health associations. Primarily because nonphysical discipline techniques work better with fewer negative consequences. According to the AAP, spanking may:.
Guide your discipline techniques to fit well with your child's temperament. The key to effective discipline is to understand who your child is, especially his temperamental style, and use your discipline to help him achieve his potential given those talents and tendencies. But your goal should not be to turn him into someone he is not for example, to turn a boisterous intense child into a mellow laid-back one.
Communicate your discipline plan. Discipline techniques shouldn't come "out of the blue," especially if you're trying something new. To children who are old enough to understand, during a planned discussion not in the heat of the moment explain the technique, why you are using it, and what you hope it will accomplish.
Older children may be included in choosing which rewards and consequences would be appropriate. Be respectful of your child. If you show your child respect -- even when disciplining your child -- your child is more likely to respect you, other family members, and other people in his or her life. If you "lose it" or overreact with disrespect, apologize. Behave the way you want your child to behave.
Be consistent. Any technique will fail if you don't follow through or enforce consequences consistently. If you say, for example, that toys will be off limits for a week, then take them away if the offending behavior continues.
Don't break your discipline rules by giving in during public exhibitions of bad behavior, such as a child throwing a tantrum while shopping. If you give in to the child's demands, the tantrums will continue. Try to keep your goals and your techniques consistent over time.
Teen Discipline Strategies
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About Resources Donate Contact Us. Tie Privileges to Good Behavior. Avoid Repetition. Enforce Consequences. Have a Plan. Praise Good Behavior. Teach Problem Solving. Focus on One Behavior. Pick your Battles. Stay Respectful. Get Support. Final Thoughts… Remember what you were like when you were a teen, and have empathy for your son or daughter.
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I had so much knowledge yet to share! And besides, things change—how would I offer my wisdom on future problems? Things change. We give our kids more because we think it will make us all feel better, but it actually places a higher value on things than on relationships. Teach your children to make friends across color, sex, and religion… and do the same yourself.
When kids see that you socialize only with others just like you, they will question your credibility. Positive parenting in the Muslim home. Irvine, CA: Izza Publishing. Altiero, J. No more stinking thinking: A workbook for teaching children positive thinking. Amato, P.
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